Six Ways to Overcome Fear
As you get closer to fulfilling your dreams, don't besurprised if doubt and fear surface. The number one way wesabotage our dreams is by saying things like, "But, whatif?" and imagining the worst. But, what if I... fail,succeed, say or do the wrong thing, don't make enough money?
With this thinking, as you move toward your dream, you'llalso move toward your fears and worst nightmares. With toomuch to risk, most of us give up or never even begin. Hereare six ways to overcome fear.
1. If you feel indecisive, this can help. Draw a line acrossthe center of a piece of paper. On the top, write your dreamin as much detail as possible. On the bottom, write out yourreality (about this dream) including your fears, doubts and"but, what ifs".
Are you more committed to your dream or to your fear?
Two things will cause you to be more committed to your fear.The first is if you don't have a clearly defined dream. Thesecond is if you project your worst fears into your dream,you'll choose reality because it's safer.
But when fear is placed in its proper place, as part ofreality, it's easier to be more committed to your vision andfear simply becomes something to manage.
2. As you connect to your dreams, you'll often run into thevoice of your "Doubter." We might ignore or obsess over thisbecause it tells us everything that might go wrong. Leftunattended, this voice can be disruptive. But turn theDoubter down and it becomes the voice of the "Realist," whoprimarily wants to know what you are planning, usuallyrelated to time and money issues.
Early on, you may not have all the details figured out,which is why going to strategy too soon can actually hinderor limit your dream. Interview your Doubter and be curious.Capture its needs, insights and wisdom.
3. Your Doubter can provide a list of obstacles based on itsfears and concerns. The Dream Coach rule is, whereverthere's an obstacle, design a strategy to manage it.
Make a list of your obstacles and identify which ones arenegative self-perceptions or beliefs and which ones requirestrategies.
The first step in managing fear is to identify exactly whatyou are afraid if. Just saying, "I'm afraid," can be awhitewash and keep you stuck. Identify what you fear.
4. Beliefs are never neutral. They either move you forwardor hold you back, but you choose what to believe. The way tomove from limiting beliefs that hold you back to empoweringbeliefs that move you forward is through willingness,courage and practice.
Be willing to believe in yourself and your dreams and havethe courage to act on what you believe. Develop this as partof your identity by practicing this behavior continuouslyuntil it becomes true.
5. Are you aware of what typically stops you? For most ofus, it's something we hate, we're not good at, or that wehave no idea how to tackle. It can be frightening and whenthat task is essential to the success of your venture, itcould be your demise. Don't allow one need or issue todestroy your dream.
If your dream is to write a book but you can't type, thisdoesn't have to stop you. Learn a new skill or hire someone.If you can't afford that, explore bartering. Get creativeand get going. The time you waste worrying would best beused by seeking guidance and finding answers.
6. Overcome fear and other obstacles (even time and moneyissues) by enrolling others into your vision. Master thisskill and you'll accomplish bigger dreams with less effort.
Learn to talk to anyone, anytime and anyplace about theirdreams in a way where they feel inspired. Ask what theirpersonal or professional dreams are and explore.
Build an arsenal of people that you can reach out to in apinch. Develop a robust database of brilliant resources thatyou can access at any given moment. Build a community offellow dreamers or join one that already exists likewww.mydreamcircle.com.
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Marcia Wieder is a motivational speaker, specializing ingoal setting, visionary thinking and team building. She isthe author of several books, and has been featured in herown PBS television special called Making Your Dreams ComeTrue. You can Reach her by visiting http://www.marciaw.com
With this thinking, as you move toward your dream, you'llalso move toward your fears and worst nightmares. With toomuch to risk, most of us give up or never even begin. Hereare six ways to overcome fear.
1. If you feel indecisive, this can help. Draw a line acrossthe center of a piece of paper. On the top, write your dreamin as much detail as possible. On the bottom, write out yourreality (about this dream) including your fears, doubts and"but, what ifs".
Are you more committed to your dream or to your fear?
Two things will cause you to be more committed to your fear.The first is if you don't have a clearly defined dream. Thesecond is if you project your worst fears into your dream,you'll choose reality because it's safer.
But when fear is placed in its proper place, as part ofreality, it's easier to be more committed to your vision andfear simply becomes something to manage.
2. As you connect to your dreams, you'll often run into thevoice of your "Doubter." We might ignore or obsess over thisbecause it tells us everything that might go wrong. Leftunattended, this voice can be disruptive. But turn theDoubter down and it becomes the voice of the "Realist," whoprimarily wants to know what you are planning, usuallyrelated to time and money issues.
Early on, you may not have all the details figured out,which is why going to strategy too soon can actually hinderor limit your dream. Interview your Doubter and be curious.Capture its needs, insights and wisdom.
3. Your Doubter can provide a list of obstacles based on itsfears and concerns. The Dream Coach rule is, whereverthere's an obstacle, design a strategy to manage it.
Make a list of your obstacles and identify which ones arenegative self-perceptions or beliefs and which ones requirestrategies.
The first step in managing fear is to identify exactly whatyou are afraid if. Just saying, "I'm afraid," can be awhitewash and keep you stuck. Identify what you fear.
4. Beliefs are never neutral. They either move you forwardor hold you back, but you choose what to believe. The way tomove from limiting beliefs that hold you back to empoweringbeliefs that move you forward is through willingness,courage and practice.
Be willing to believe in yourself and your dreams and havethe courage to act on what you believe. Develop this as partof your identity by practicing this behavior continuouslyuntil it becomes true.
5. Are you aware of what typically stops you? For most ofus, it's something we hate, we're not good at, or that wehave no idea how to tackle. It can be frightening and whenthat task is essential to the success of your venture, itcould be your demise. Don't allow one need or issue todestroy your dream.
If your dream is to write a book but you can't type, thisdoesn't have to stop you. Learn a new skill or hire someone.If you can't afford that, explore bartering. Get creativeand get going. The time you waste worrying would best beused by seeking guidance and finding answers.
6. Overcome fear and other obstacles (even time and moneyissues) by enrolling others into your vision. Master thisskill and you'll accomplish bigger dreams with less effort.
Learn to talk to anyone, anytime and anyplace about theirdreams in a way where they feel inspired. Ask what theirpersonal or professional dreams are and explore.
Build an arsenal of people that you can reach out to in apinch. Develop a robust database of brilliant resources thatyou can access at any given moment. Build a community offellow dreamers or join one that already exists likewww.mydreamcircle.com.
____________
Marcia Wieder is a motivational speaker, specializing ingoal setting, visionary thinking and team building. She isthe author of several books, and has been featured in herown PBS television special called Making Your Dreams ComeTrue. You can Reach her by visiting http://www.marciaw.com
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